Fraternity President Disrespected

My chapter has the issue where our new executive board (my executive board) is getting a lot of disrespect from the members. Basically, they are pushing us to see how far we can go before we quit. How can I handle this as chapter president?


Bedtime used to be a fight at my house.  I have 4 kids, and they know the party stops at bath time, so they rebel…

I would initially fight back with an authoritarian mindset.  After all, I’m the Dad right?  I’m in charge.  I call the shots.  Yeah – that didn’t work.

So I had to change my approach.  If I could make taking a bath something they wanted to do, then success was much more likely.

One night, I decided to make bath time fun.  I started playing loud music when we took baths.  And then I introduced bubble baths.  On very desperate nights, I would turn the lights off and put a flashing strobe light in the bathroom.

We had a dramatic mind shift in regards to bath time.  The kids now didn’t mind at all because they knew it would be fun.  And after a while of having ‘fun’ baths, we went back to normal baths with no issues.

You are in exactly the same boat.  Your only job as a leader is to serve.  You need to check your ego at the door, and focus on serving your chapter.  That is what you signed up for, and from the sounds of it you aren’t holding up your end of the bargain.

If you want to get your chapter in a better place, figure out what the brothers want and then work your ass off to make it happen.  In fact, exceed their expectations.  Do this enough, and then you will earn their respect and the issues you describe will go away.

Also, don’t forget to check out my books on being a fraternity president.  I am sure they will help you.

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