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Here are some questions that I have already answered many times and these articles may answer your question:

Joining a New Fraternity after Quitting or Getting Kicked Out or Transferring

How to Fix a Broken Fraternity


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  1. My fraternity voted that I couldn’t attend a formal because of behavioral reasons, the law was not involved in this issue, nor are there any charges it was a civil dispute that the chapter found out about (yelling at someone that got confrontational, end result noise disturbance call, police left and we all shook hands) now i’m out of my deposit for the trip with the fraternity, can I re-coup my loss in small claims?

  2. Also, it is looking like we are not going to have a spring pledge class, the first time I can ever remember this happening since being a brother of my chapter. It is heartbreaking to see this happen, especially since I am graduating at the end of this semester.

  3. Hello Patrick. My name is Bayard Carmiencke. I am a brother of the Alpha Chi Rho fraternity at Queens College. We are currently a rebuilding chapter of 13 members who are struggling with recruitment this semester. We recently extended bids to 5 rushes, and all are bailing out on us at the last minute. We need to have this fixed by this Saturday. Any suggestions? Thanks.

  4. I am a full time student and am total independent and pay for my college education. I work full time and my job depends on tips. I can not afford my dues this semester and the fraternity will not let me go inactive. Is this normal?  

    • If you can’t meet your financial obligations I don’t see how you can be upset that the chapter suspends you from social functions. This is perfectly normal and makes sense to me.

  5. Pledgeship is a process of mutual evaluation. Certain activities such as pledge class projects that are fun (not painful) and stress team building are perfectly OK and legal as long as their is no requirement. For example, a pledge class can work on a pledge class mural or plaque together. The benefit is they did something together and they can take pride in it with their fellow pledge brothers. It’s one of those things that 30 years later, they can return to their fraternity and see the mural or plaque. Brings back great memories. Getting back on track, create these activities that spawn positive attitude and morale and you can’t go wrong. Make sure that the pledges know that they do not have to participate and can say something if they don’t feel comfortable with it.

  6. You cant just look at it as hazing. You look at it as these guys need to prove theirselves to you that they want to be your brother so bad they will do damn near anything to do it. I’m not saying bury them alive but yeah have some fun with them and more than anything teach them what you are about, what you want from them, find out what they expect from you, teach them wearing any Fraternity letters means so much more than being greek, partying, and getting girls, and at the end of their pledgeship they are going to be a damn good brother.

  7. Its not about anti-hazing; making them do anything, including a ritual, is called hazing. To be safe from a legal aspect, you must literally baby them by asking about every small detail. Its a question of good hazing vs bad hazing, the utility of the hazing and what it provides (no bullshit “character builder” excuses haha) should provide for a structure

    ie. Beating your pledges = bad hazing
    Having your pledges give speeches about x, y, and z to develop public speaking skills to showcase the fraternity = good hazing

    It still is hazing because I doubt a pledge would want to give a speech to begin with

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