Question:
So my question is really out there, and instead of wasting your time going through the whole story I found a post that is to the exact of my situation.
http://thefraternityadvisor.com/should-i-quit-my-fraternity-episode-746/
I am in the same dilemma and now the same mindset as the original guy that asked the question. But I now am a year and a half in, had two executive board positions. I’ve also became the recruitment chair to bring in the people I thought would be a great addition. I have tried so hard, put so much of my time and heart into the fraternity and now I am banned for the semester because I am having emotional distress and they would rather sweep me under the rug instead of helping me out.
I am really torn because I do love the brothers, but the brotherhood is definitely lacking and I don’t feel welcomed anymore. I don’t know if I want to quit, and possibly start up an MGC fraternity or stay and hopefully one day the fraternity I am in will get better.
Answer:
This pains me to say, because I know it isn’t the answer you want to hear, but you need to quit.
Your chapter doesn’t want you anymore. They don’t want to be friends, much less brothers. They are having a hard time dealing with it because you have been so dedicated. So they ‘banned’ you for a semester which makes them feel better by kicking the inevitable down the road.
Truth be told, they are probably hoping you take the hint and quit so they don’t have to kick you out. Trust me when I say this though – that is eventually what will happen.
My advice – if they don’t want you then the hell with them. Life is way too short to force yourself on people who don’t want you around. Get your full release, and go somewhere you are appreciated and start over.
I know what I’m saying isn’t easy. But by the sounds of it, it has emotionally taken a toll on you as well. No organization is worth that.
Take care of yourself. You can start by creating a fresh start. I think you will be much happier in the long-run if you do.