Why didn’t the Fraternity Give Me a Bid?

Why didn’t the Fraternity Give me a Bid?

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Why didn’t I get a bid during rush week?


I have received this question about 100 times this past week in several different forms. The answer is very simple, but the politically correct world doesn’t like the answer. However, I will give it to you straight.

You didn’t get the bid because the brothers didn’t like you.

It really sucks when that happens, but it is part of life. You don’t always get what you want.

Now, that doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you. In most instances I have found that the problem is actually with the fraternity.

Let me let you in on a secret though — they did you a favor.

For some reason or another those guys did not feel like you were a good fit in their fraternity. Since that is the case, why would you want to be a part of their chapter? Don’t lose one second of sleep over not getting a bid.

Instead, go find a group where you do fit in. There are a couple of resources you have that can help you find the best fit.

First, ask around. Ask your buddies what fraternities are the best and what fraternity has the best guys. Also, ask girls in a sorority what fraternity they like. They will be able to tell you who they think the best guys are.

Also, ask the Greek Life director. They know the chapters better than you think. He will be able to match you up with a fraternity if you tell him what your interests are.

Finally, take this opportunity to go meet the guys on your own. Email the recruitment chair at chapters you are interested in and let them know you plan on joining a fraternity the next semester. Let him know you would like to learn more about their chapter.

Again, I know that it hurts to feel like you are left out. We have all been there many times. Your fraternity is out there. Follow these couple steps and you will get the bid from the right chapter during your next fraternity recruitment period.

If you have a question you want me to answer go here to submit it: Fraternity Advice.

To learn more, check out our most in-depth article on fraternity recruitment: The Complete Guide to Fraternity Recruitment.

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