fraternity rush ninja

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What do I do about the rush ninja? You know who I mean…its that guy in the fraternity who snuck his way in through rush and pledgeship, and came out a total asshole who causes girls to leave parties and in some cases brothers to go inactive.


I have never heard the term fraternity rush ninja – it is pretty funny. Unfortunately, we are all familiar with this brother.

He got his bid during fraternity recruitment over a lot of objections from a lot of brothers because an influential brother labeled him a diamond in the rough. That brother convinced everyone he deserved a chance. During his new member period, he kept his nose down and the brothers didn’t like him, but didn’t have the heart to kick him out.

Next thing you know, he is the brother that no one is proud of. His values don’t match those of the brotherhood. He isn’t friends with the brothers and is the source of 90% of the drama in the fraternity. So what do you do?

The very first thing you need to do is have a private conversation with him. Men discuss things in hopes of settling their issues privately. You don’t have to accuse him of anything, just explain how his actions (be specific) have made YOU feel.

Hopefully, he will appreciate the conversation and modify his behavior. If he doesn’t, then other brothers should have the same conversation with him (privately one on one).

At this point he will realize that he has to change. If he doesn’t change, then the chapter will have to kick him out of the fraternity.

Before you start the process your fraternity has for expelling a brother, you better make sure that everyone feels the same way you do. This is obviously a big step and should not be taken lightly. I would first make sure the executive board is aware of the issue and let them take the lead on it.

I realize that expelling a brother is tough. No one likes to be the bad guy and kick a guy out. If this guy doesn’t meet your values, and is holding your fraternity back, then it is really your only option. Trust me though, removing this cancer from your fraternity will make it a lot stronger. It will also ensure that this type of attitude and behavior doesn’t spread.

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  1. First and foremost, think these things through when you’re voting on bids so it doesn’t happen again.

    Second, regulate the behavior of your members. Try talking to them directly to start. If that doesn’t work then you have a disciplinary system to deal with problems.

    When sororities have a good idea, I have no problem copying it. One of those that I encourage a lot of chapters to take on, though not popular, is a standards committee. It is effectively a misdemeanor court and grand jury that exists below the JBoard level. For us, the chaplain is in charge of maintaining the brotherhood, mediating problems, etc and is the defense counsel for JBoard, so he is the guy in charge of standards. The Sgt-at-Arms is the prosecutor for standards and we have a member at large who is normally a graduating senior who has served on exec before. Those three guys hear any problem within basically 72 hours on an accusation. They are conducting something like what you would expect of a legal mediation process versus the courtroom trial you should have for JBoard. That means they aren’t pulling in dozens of witnesses and taking long statements. They’re just sitting down with the people involved and figuring out what happened. They can dismiss, they can impose a limited range of punishments of minor offenses, or they can pass the case on to JBoard (acting like something of a grand jury to filter out the BS). It’s a good way to intervene with this type of guy who is consistently being a problem.

    At the end of the day though, you screwed up bidding this guy and screwed up more not figuring him out in pledgeship. If he’s not breaking the rules, you’re stuck paying the price for your mistake. Instead of being angry at this one guy, turn that into motivation to recruit the right guys and improve the quality of your chapter for the future.

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