Many young men ask me how to rush a fraternity, because they are nervous and don’t know how to act.
I’m here to teach you what you should do and what you shouldn’t do during rush to increase your chances of getting a bid.
When you find yourself in a chapter house for the first time, it is a daunting experience.
The first time I was in a chapter house I was awestruck by the fraternity paddles hanging on the mantle and the brothers everywhere. It is an overwhelming experience, but one you will get used to quickly.
You must remember that the brothers in the fraternity you are visiting will be trying to impress you.
How to Rush a Fraternity Successfully
You are their guest, and they are gauging if they see you as a potential member. To make the most of this situation – BE YOURSELF.
It does no one any good if you pretend to be someone you aren’t just to get a bid. Either you or the fraternity will be disappointed if that happens.
Like anything else in life, the better prepared you are the less daunting this situation will be. Reading this will help you learn how to rush a fraternity successfully.
Think of questions you have about fraternity life and being a brother in that particular chapter. Ask about their pledge program and the financial commitment you would be making. Ask several brothers the same question to make sure you get the answer you are looking for.
If the fraternity you are visiting is a quality chapter, they will pride themselves on being gentlemen. Be sure to be on your best behavior by remembering names and offering to pay if things are purchased (don’t worry – they won’t let you). Also, be courteous around women which includes not swearing.
Be sure to be smart if there is booze around. Most rush events have alcohol there (whether it is allowed or not). Often, a rushee will drink too much which will end up clouding his judgment of the event. There will be plenty of opportunities to drink more than your share. It isn’t smart to make RUSH one of them.
Finally, don’t hesitate to cut ties with a fraternity if it isn’t a good fit for you. You will know when you find the right fraternity. Don’t waste your time at a place you know you don’t fit in. You don’t want to waste their time or yours.
Above all else – have fun with rush! It is an incredible experience and should be a lot of fun.
Now you know how to rush a fraternity successfully. Good luck!
To learn more, check out our most in-depth article on fraternity recruitment: The Complete Guide to Fraternity Recruitment.