Gay Fraternity Advisor

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Question:

We found out our Fraternity Advisor’s “wife” is really a “husband”. They’ve been “married” for a number of years and he never acknowledged this. He always had an excuse about why his “wife” couldn’t attend formal functions – now it makes sense. How should we approach this? I know it “shouldn’t matter” his sexual preference, but it is definitely going to make the chapter uneasy. Advice on the situation would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Answer:

It is very difficult to find a good fraternity advisor.  There are an infinite number of distractions in life that push fraternity brothers away from the chapter after graduation.

From the sounds of it, you have found an alumni brother who is active and involved.  You have found a guy who generously donates his time and attends your functions.  A good chapter advisor is very difficult to find, and you should feel fortunate you have one.

But if you and your brothers aren’t careful, you will push him away.

My advice is to remember that this guy is a brother.  Above that, he is a brother who has taken the ritual to heart and has chosen to give back long after most brothers fade away.  He should be given the utmost respect by the chapter.

If the chapter chooses to question or pass judgment on his lifestyle, then you guys are going to be the ones who lose out when you lose your chapter advisor.

It seems to me that your chapter has some growing up to do.

This question was submitted by one of our readers. If you have a question you want me to answer go here to submit it: Fraternity Advice.

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